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Conscious Relationships Can Be Sexy!
Posted by: | CommentsDuring our work this week with a couple trying to improve their sexual relating, I found myself thinking about some of what goes into creating a more fulfilling sexual experience. After a little while, I had the thought that these elements are not just what’s needed for a better sexual experience, but are necessary for a better relationship and even a better life!
• B
reathe…
• Relax your body
• Slow wayyyyyyy down
• Get more present to your moment-to-moment experience
• Enjoy every pleasant sensation and try not to resist any unpleasant ones
• If something’s not working, stop and talk about it
• Stay in the moment and do your best to let go of future expectations or outcomes
• Become more aware of your own needs and fears
• Communicate your wishes clearly and lovingly
• Maintain a loving connection with your partner; look, laugh, share
• Let the experience unfold-delicious moment by delicious moment
Tantra: The Spice of Life and Relationships
Posted by: | CommentsJust back home after an October colors trip to the Northeast to present a workshop at Kripalu entitled Sex, Pleasure and Intimacy. We had just a wonderful time exploring the “ins and outs” of the topic with honesty, sensitivity and humor. What an absolute treat to have such open discussions about this forbidden topic. So helpful and reassuring, our common humanity on display without shame. Beautiful, b
eautiful people.
I was left with a desire to live my life in an even more “Tantric” way. Tantra is a form of Yoga that emphasizes the transcendent possibilities of an increase in sensual awareness. Somehow, along the years, Tantra got placed in a box labeled Esoteric Sex and wound up with somewhat of a tarnished reputation. I believe that Tantra practice in our daily lives can be a great help in awakening our consciousness.
Here’s my simplistic take on the matter. Tantra is all about drawing the most satisfaction possible out of every moment. For most of us these days, that requires a great slowing down in order to become available to experience the fullness of the moment. A terrific support in slowing down is breath awareness. Sensitizing ourselves to the naturally calming flow of breath usually helps us relax, slow down and increase our ability to focus on anything. Read More→
