Comments on: The Business of Relationships (Make Love, Not War!)

By: joelfeldman

joelfeldman — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 21:00:13 +0000

Hope I’m not in trouble with John now:-)
Just remember that shared agreements mean that both parties agree on what is to be done, when and by whom. No arm twisting or threats, but anything that will “sweeten the deal” ought to be allowed!

By: Jeanie

Jeanie — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 03:56:28 +0000

I love this idea!! It makes total sense and I’m making a list up of things that need to be done
around the house for John and I to divide up–John just doesn’t know it yet When I’m working,
really working our Shaklee business, some of the household chores go undone–I feel guilty, and
then frustrated. I make up thoughts for John (why isn’t this done? I thought you would have time
to…etc.) and then sometimes resent him for thinking it! Crazy! I have to remember that my happiness
depends on me and no one else–it’s dependent on how I react. An agreement to a list will work out great!
Love your blog! Jeanie

By: Pamela

Pamela — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 16:56:16 +0000

SO as I listened to David explain to me what the male (yes that is an important factor here) teacher was telling us regarding homework assignments. Let me lay the ground work here,” if there were to be a reason ie ball game, late practice or family event that prevented your child from doing their homework, just write a note, and while they will not be let off the hook, I, the teacher, will give them more time to do it. ” I explained to David I heard very clearly what the male teacher said, and what I explained was as far as this female, mom, was concerned, postponing the homework with a note would not be acceptable in our house and if they or we were going to go to practice, or a ball game or family function, our child would have to figure out how to do it! David responded with ooooh, okay. So how this relates to the point at hand and agreements,
I have learned that if there is something that I feel strongly about, I make my point clear in “my world” terms. Sometimes there is an agreement instantly and other times
there is a discussion with a compromise. David certainly has been with me long enough to know what I will compromise or negotiate and what I won’t. The homework item is something that I believe needs to be done when assigned so our son figures out what he can do and what he can’t and still uphold his responsibilities instead of figuring out how long he has before he really has to do it! – Love you Both!

By: Kathi Minsky

Kathi Minsky — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 15:24:47 +0000

Hey Joel, You comment box is a bit messed up….but your advice never is.
Thanks for the insight…or reminder.
Kathi