http://deepeningyourlove.com/what-to-do-when-youre-upset-with-me/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=what-to-do-when-youre-upset-with-me Supporting Aliveness and Growth in Intimate Relationships Tue, 10 Jan 2012 05:20:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://deepeningyourlove.com/what-to-do-when-youre-upset-with-me/comment-page-1/#comment-136 joelfeldman Tue, 29 Dec 2009 13:06:26 +0000 http://deepeningyourlove.com/?p=390#comment-136 Boy, empathy is truly a most difficult skill to obtain, but yes, sooooo worth it. Dropping my own stuff and turning to my partners' world seems to be one of those "lifetime practices". At least Milarepa got some exercise walking up and down that mountain...... Boy, empathy is truly a most difficult skill to obtain, but yes, sooooo worth it. Dropping my own stuff and turning to my partners’ world seems to be one of those “lifetime practices”. At least Milarepa got some exercise walking up and down that mountain……

]]> http://deepeningyourlove.com/what-to-do-when-youre-upset-with-me/comment-page-1/#comment-135 joelfeldman Tue, 29 Dec 2009 13:02:28 +0000 http://deepeningyourlove.com/?p=390#comment-135 Thanks, Mary....yes isn't it hard but sp worthwhile. Whenever I think I've got it down, I mess up again. Luckily, repair happens! BTW, I love your writing/blog! Thanks, Mary….yes isn’t it hard but sp worthwhile. Whenever I think I’ve got it down, I mess up again. Luckily, repair happens!
BTW, I love your writing/blog!

]]> http://deepeningyourlove.com/what-to-do-when-youre-upset-with-me/comment-page-1/#comment-134 Mary (MPJ) Tue, 29 Dec 2009 07:49:17 +0000 http://deepeningyourlove.com/?p=390#comment-134 I like this. It's so easy to blame and jump on the defensive when someone else is upset and so hard (but so valuable to relationships) to let them feel their feelings and be with them. Thanks for the link to my blog on your blogroll! I like this. It’s so easy to blame and jump on the defensive when someone else is upset and so hard (but so valuable to relationships) to let them feel their feelings and be with them. Thanks for the link to my blog on your blogroll!

]]> http://deepeningyourlove.com/what-to-do-when-youre-upset-with-me/comment-page-1/#comment-132 Kenn Holsen Fri, 25 Dec 2009 01:15:17 +0000 http://deepeningyourlove.com/?p=390#comment-132 Hi Joel--This is a very cool piece! It's nice to be reminded that we don't need to defend ourselves and also that by listening to our partners when they are upset (even with us!), we dont' necessarily have to give ourselves up or accept blame or caretake--just by listening compassionately can take most of the charge out of the other's feelings and make them (and us) feel better. Thanks for this illumination! Hi Joel–This is a very cool piece! It’s nice to be reminded that we don’t need to defend ourselves and also that by listening to our partners when they are upset (even with us!), we dont’ necessarily have to give ourselves up or accept blame or caretake–just by listening compassionately can take most of the charge out of the other’s feelings and make them (and us) feel better. Thanks for this illumination!

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